Success is Subjective: Helping parents of college students accept that dropping out is okay

Episode 47 — Just Because it Worked Then Doesn’t Mean You Have to Make it Work Now —with Pete Kadushin

February 02, 2021 Joanna Lilley, MA, NCC Season 1 Episode 47
Success is Subjective: Helping parents of college students accept that dropping out is okay
Episode 47 — Just Because it Worked Then Doesn’t Mean You Have to Make it Work Now —with Pete Kadushin
Show Notes

Maybe college worked out in the beginning and then turned out to be something that isn’t for you right now. What if instead of trying to force something that isn’t working anymore, you decided to embrace what is?

Pete Kadushin, Mental Performance Coach, found himself planning on going to college to get a PhD because it worked out for his dad. By the end of his college experience, he was left feeling lost and struggling with imposter syndrome, which caused him to slow down and really reflect. With much reflection, Pete decided to change the course from what used to work and focus on what really works for him now, which is spending time with athletes and teams, helping them find meaning in their life and achieve their goals.

On this episode of Success is Subjective, Pete joins Joanna to share his journey going from avoiding adulting and forcing himself down a path, to now embracing what he truly loves. Pete’s goal is to help fellow athletes find their own sustained success, no matter their goals. Listen in for Pete’s insight on how choosing a simpler life has benefited him and his life as a whole, and how he shares that growth with his clients. 

What You Will Learn

  • When you are the child of a parent with a PhD in Neuropsychology, higher education is the unspoken and spoken expectation
  • He’s a self-identified former contrarian and simultaneous rebel, who chose his undergraduate experience based on school spirit
  • When he graduated from undergrad, he did what terrified his family most: he took a year off to work a part-time job so he could “avoid growing up.” 
  • How comparing yourself to others can translate to perceiving oneself as an imposter within your community
  • How he found himself feel lost and experiencing shame when he reached his goal and found himself teaching out of convenience 
  • It’s okay to reflect on where you are in life, whether you’re a 22, 32 or 42 year old and understand that you can change the course of your life. For all your outdoor lovers out there, he used the metaphor of bushwhacking. His advice: Stay on the trail!  
  • Check out a recent article he wrote about building a trusting mindset.  His writing is as witty on paper as he is in person! 
  • How terrifying taking the leap to launch your own business can be. Stay the course, Pete! This is a long race and you’ve got the mental toughness to succeed (see what I did there?!)!
  • The doors that open when you get out of your own way

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